do your children like you

How many times have you made this statement to someone making a well meant suggestion about your children to you?

This is my Child and don't you forget it I know them.I know what he or she is all about,you don't know anything about them

If you indeed do you are very fortunate.Children let you see what they believe you want to see, If you would like a little help and a fresh approach to an old problem,please comment on my page and we might come up with something new to try.

I raised five children mostly on mistakes. I had no help no guidance,No excuse. We make mistakes it is normal.

We are all individuals, there is no generalizing especially within our very own family unit. And as much as we like to, most of us do not know what is going on in our Children's heads or hearts. If you have more then one child believe me each is different.Siblings tend not to be alike.So do not attempt to generalize.Doesn't work ever.

A Dr, generalizes when we go to them, A Teacher can, everyone except you the parent, No you can not, there is no "well this is how I did it with Johny and it worked", but with Anne it's not working. So now what? If we ignore the problem? Johny sees it and the why did i have to starts and here comes a new problem added to the problem with Anne.(example names)

Now we have a snowball rolling UPHILL how to fix it?

Learn to Understand them,

Get to Know them

Don't try to Read them.

Be A Parent first

A friend Later

The Parent figure demands Respect

A Friend is someone to pal around with and demands no special respect